Lessons From My Divorce

When you end up on the other side of a relationship, instead of asking yourself, “What was I thinking?” try, “What was I learning?” – Timber Hawkeye I read this quote recently, and it stuck with me.  I am now on the other side of my marriage, and I have learned so much.  About relationships, […]

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The Moving Adventure

My house was in contract, and I now had 6 weeks until I was moving back to Ohio.  I was excited about going back to the US, and leaving Canada.  I was done with Calgary.  But fear also struck and struck large.  I would now be moving across the continent, and driving with my 85 […]

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Decision to Move

I knew I had to leave Calgary.  But that was such a hard decision to truly make and put into action.  My then husband made it really obvious to me that he was never coming back.  I had no family there.  Calgary, though beautiful, is cold for a lot of the year.  And I love […]

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September

I have felt off for a week or so now.  Just off.  A friend has attended Unitarian Universalist church, and he asked me to join him last Sunday.  He told me that it was the first service since summer, and I might find it interesting.  He is a good friend, and knows me enough to […]

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Yea but…

“If you really want to do something, you will find a way.  If you don’t, you will find an excuse.”  E. James Rohn Being betrayed sucks.  I remember feeling at the time like my then husband threw me down, and while I severely wounded and lying on the ground, he kicked me off the cliff […]

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Searching for Answers

I had so many questions, and I wanted answers, and wanted them quickly.  I had so many questions about the affair, the end of the marriage, the other woman.  But I also had a lot of questions about my life.  Where would I go?  Would I stay in Calgary or move back to the US?  […]

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Decluttering

I have been out of sorts this week.  I think it is a combination of coming off a wonderful vacation, and hitting the ground back home, being very busy.  And then there are guys.  The guy from Ireland.  And another interesting guy I met at my 40th high school reunion, which was the week after […]

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Divorce 101

There is no rule book for divorce.  Nothing is handed out at a marriage about how to protect yourself should the marriage fall apart.  Once the affair happened, I was suddenly navigating new territory.  A couple of weeks after I found out about the affair, I went to see a lawyer.  It was awful.  I […]

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Love Affair in Dublin

So he asked me to go to a hotel with him, get to know each other, and make love.  What did I want to do?  I sat there for a while, quiet, lost in my thoughts.  And my non-thoughts, just sitting there feeling.  He was a bit panicked, and told me to please not feel […]

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In the Meantime

I kept busy for the next 6 months.  Between school, my dog and my workouts, my days were somewhat full.  And I still spent hours talking to my friends,  particularly some of the women I met at the Take your Life Back retreat in Dallas.  Crazy thing was, I still wanted my husband back.  There […]

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