Is it a date?

I actually didn’t even know if I would recognize him.  When we talked about getting together, I asked if he just wanted to meet somewhere.  He said no, he would pick me up.  I was staying at my mother’s apartment.  He texted me when he got there.  I went down to meet him.  It was […]

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Dating after your husband cheats and leaves you for the younger other woman

In the aftermath of the affair, my self-esteem was pretty much gone.  I didn’t feel like a beautiful, sexual, wonderful, vibrant female, but rather like an old dried up hag.  The thought of dating again scared the heck out of me.  There was no way I wanted to get hurt again.  And I felt like […]

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The Moving Adventure

My house was in contract, and I now had 6 weeks until I was moving back to Ohio.  I was excited about going back to the US, and leaving Canada.  I was done with Calgary.  But fear also struck and struck large.  I would now be moving across the continent, and driving with my 85 […]

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Searching for Answers

I had so many questions, and I wanted answers, and wanted them quickly.  I had so many questions about the affair, the end of the marriage, the other woman.  But I also had a lot of questions about my life.  Where would I go?  Would I stay in Calgary or move back to the US?  […]

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In the Meantime

I kept busy for the next 6 months.  Between school, my dog and my workouts, my days were somewhat full.  And I still spent hours talking to my friends,  particularly some of the women I met at the Take your Life Back retreat in Dallas.  Crazy thing was, I still wanted my husband back.  There […]

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Why???

It’s not fair.  I am the good one in this relationship.  I didn’t stray.  And yet, I am the one hurting.  I am the one by myself.  This thought would race through my mind, over and over, many times throughout this journey.  It would piss me off.  He had someone to sleep with, someone to […]

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Ending a Marriage by Email

The idea of coaching stayed in my mind.  One day in February, I decided to research it, and found that a coaching program was starting soon at the University of Calgary, with Newfield Network.  I called the university, spoke to the right person, and I decided to jump in.  I signed up for the course.  […]

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Life can turn in an instant

Life can take a total turn in an instant.  My instant came on November 13, 2012, when I got a strange feeling in my gut, an intuitive call from somewhere, and went to my then husband’s (now ex-husband’s) computer bag.  There I found receipts.  The receipts told me who he was, and how he wasn’t […]

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