Ran into ex’s close friend

I ran into my ex’s closest and oldest friend today.  Hadn’t seen him in years.  I thought it had been 30 years, he said more like 10.  Whatever.  It was actually really great to see him.  After all the hi’s and I can’t believe it’s, he said he was sorry to hear what happened and […]

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Forgiveness…ugh!

I think I am doing great.  I know I am doing well.  I am coming up to 5 years of finding out about the affair and having my now ex walk out of my life.  I am creating a wonderful life.  I get a lot of inspiration and learning from books.  Last week I was […]

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A is for Affair

I am in a yoga gratitude challenge this month at my yoga studio.  Along with 16 yoga practices this month, we are asked to practice daily gratitude.  One suggestion is to write a gratitude A-Z list, for each letter of the alphabet find something you feel real gratitude for. So I began.  A.  The first […]

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I’m Back

I haven’t written for quite some time.  Not sure why.  My excuse is time, but that is really only an excuse.  Maybe habit?  I just got out of the habit?  Or maybe I just got lazy.  Doesn’t really matter.  I am back now and ready to continue to share my story.  It has been almost […]

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Is it a date?

I actually didn’t even know if I would recognize him.  When we talked about getting together, I asked if he just wanted to meet somewhere.  He said no, he would pick me up.  I was staying at my mother’s apartment.  He texted me when he got there.  I went down to meet him.  It was […]

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40th High School Reunion

It has been a while since my last post.  So much has gone on.  I don’t even know where to begin.  So let me start with a guy.  This sounds so cliche, but I went to my 40th high school reunion and met a guy there.  I was in a class of over 700, so […]

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Learning a Big Lesson

I hurt a friend deeply by saying something I should not have.  We were out drinking and carrying on and I did something stupid.  But that is not an excuse.  I own my bad behavior and feel just terrible about it.  One huge thing I have gotten from this journey after the betrayal is to […]

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Finding a career at 56

I came to Columbus having no clue as to what I was going to do with my life or who I was going to be.  After finding about the affair, him walking away, my trying to figure out what I was doing with my life in Calgary and finally leaving Calgary and driving across the […]

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Yoga helped save me

Yoga helped save me in my darkest hours.  It was right after d-day, the day I found out my husband was having an affair, that I reventured into a yoga class.  The teacher was a spiritual young man, not much more than 20, but calmness exuded from his being.  I found a moment’s peace in […]

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Dating after your husband cheats and leaves you for the younger other woman

In the aftermath of the affair, my self-esteem was pretty much gone.  I didn’t feel like a beautiful, sexual, wonderful, vibrant female, but rather like an old dried up hag.  The thought of dating again scared the heck out of me.  There was no way I wanted to get hurt again.  And I felt like […]

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