Divorce 101

There is no rule book for divorce.  Nothing is handed out at a marriage about how to protect yourself should the marriage fall apart.  Once the affair happened, I was suddenly navigating new territory.  A couple of weeks after I found out about the affair, I went to see a lawyer.  It was awful.  I […]

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Love Affair in Dublin

So he asked me to go to a hotel with him, get to know each other, and make love.  What did I want to do?  I sat there for a while, quiet, lost in my thoughts.  And my non-thoughts, just sitting there feeling.  He was a bit panicked, and told me to please not feel […]

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In the Meantime

I kept busy for the next 6 months.  Between school, my dog and my workouts, my days were somewhat full.  And I still spent hours talking to my friends,  particularly some of the women I met at the Take your Life Back retreat in Dallas.  Crazy thing was, I still wanted my husband back.  There […]

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Why???

It’s not fair.  I am the good one in this relationship.  I didn’t stray.  And yet, I am the one hurting.  I am the one by myself.  This thought would race through my mind, over and over, many times throughout this journey.  It would piss me off.  He had someone to sleep with, someone to […]

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Ending a Marriage by Email

The idea of coaching stayed in my mind.  One day in February, I decided to research it, and found that a coaching program was starting soon at the University of Calgary, with Newfield Network.  I called the university, spoke to the right person, and I decided to jump in.  I signed up for the course.  […]

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The Irish Man

We walked outside.  He asked if he could hold my hand.  He knew where he wanted to take me.  To a Spanish restaurant for tapas.  It was maybe a 15 minute walk.  We held hands and kissed pretty often as we strolled through the streets of Dublin.  We were in a busy area.  He told […]

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Love Affair with Dublin

I went into an old pub, a bit closer to my B&B.  It wasn’t very crowded yet, and I easily found a seat at the bar.  I ordered another Hop House 13, and just sat and took in the old Irish pub atmosphere.  I enjoyed just sitting there, drinking my beer, when along comes a […]

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More on Cheating…

With the whole Anthony Weiner/Huma Abedin news breaking this week, it is bringing cheating, affairs, and betrayed wives back into the news cycles.  What really gets me is how people are judging her.  I have already heard…Why didn’t she leave him sooner?  How could she pick someone like him?  Their sex life must not have […]

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Cheating

My thoughts on Cheating have been all over the map as I have started traveling on this journey.  I have always believed that another woman’s man is totally off limits.  Totally.  That stems back from high school, and liking a girlfriend’s boyfriend, and not being able to do anything until they broke up.  That was […]

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Norway to Ireland

“It seemed an advantage to be traveling alone. Our responses to the world are crucially moulded by the company we keep, for we temper our curiosity to fit in with the expectations of others.”  Alain de Bolton- The Art of Travel Norway in August is just beautiful, and I had a wonderful time there.  Spent […]

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