Forgiveness…ugh!

I think I am doing great.  I know I am doing well.  I am coming up to 5 years of finding out about the affair and having my now ex walk out of my life.  I am creating a wonderful life.  I get a lot of inspiration and learning from books.  Last week I was […]

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A is for Affair

I am in a yoga gratitude challenge this month at my yoga studio.  Along with 16 yoga practices this month, we are asked to practice daily gratitude.  One suggestion is to write a gratitude A-Z list, for each letter of the alphabet find something you feel real gratitude for. So I began.  A.  The first […]

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Learning a Big Lesson

I hurt a friend deeply by saying something I should not have.  We were out drinking and carrying on and I did something stupid.  But that is not an excuse.  I own my bad behavior and feel just terrible about it.  One huge thing I have gotten from this journey after the betrayal is to […]

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Finding a career at 56

I came to Columbus having no clue as to what I was going to do with my life or who I was going to be.  After finding about the affair, him walking away, my trying to figure out what I was doing with my life in Calgary and finally leaving Calgary and driving across the […]

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Lessons From My Divorce

When you end up on the other side of a relationship, instead of asking yourself, “What was I thinking?” try, “What was I learning?” – Timber Hawkeye I read this quote recently, and it stuck with me.  I am now on the other side of my marriage, and I have learned so much.  About relationships, […]

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The Moving Adventure

My house was in contract, and I now had 6 weeks until I was moving back to Ohio.  I was excited about going back to the US, and leaving Canada.  I was done with Calgary.  But fear also struck and struck large.  I would now be moving across the continent, and driving with my 85 […]

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Decision to Move

I knew I had to leave Calgary.  But that was such a hard decision to truly make and put into action.  My then husband made it really obvious to me that he was never coming back.  I had no family there.  Calgary, though beautiful, is cold for a lot of the year.  And I love […]

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September

I have felt off for a week or so now.  Just off.  A friend has attended Unitarian Universalist church, and he asked me to join him last Sunday.  He told me that it was the first service since summer, and I might find it interesting.  He is a good friend, and knows me enough to […]

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Yea but…

“If you really want to do something, you will find a way.  If you don’t, you will find an excuse.”  E. James Rohn Being betrayed sucks.  I remember feeling at the time like my then husband threw me down, and while I severely wounded and lying on the ground, he kicked me off the cliff […]

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Divorce 101

There is no rule book for divorce.  Nothing is handed out at a marriage about how to protect yourself should the marriage fall apart.  Once the affair happened, I was suddenly navigating new territory.  A couple of weeks after I found out about the affair, I went to see a lawyer.  It was awful.  I […]

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