Divorce 101

There is no rule book for divorce.  Nothing is handed out at a marriage about how to protect yourself should the marriage fall apart.  Once the affair happened, I was suddenly navigating new territory.  A couple of weeks after I found out about the affair, I went to see a lawyer.  It was awful.  I […]

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In the Meantime

I kept busy for the next 6 months.  Between school, my dog and my workouts, my days were somewhat full.  And I still spent hours talking to my friends,  particularly some of the women I met at the Take your Life Back retreat in Dallas.  Crazy thing was, I still wanted my husband back.  There […]

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Why???

It’s not fair.  I am the good one in this relationship.  I didn’t stray.  And yet, I am the one hurting.  I am the one by myself.  This thought would race through my mind, over and over, many times throughout this journey.  It would piss me off.  He had someone to sleep with, someone to […]

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Ending a Marriage by Email

The idea of coaching stayed in my mind.  One day in February, I decided to research it, and found that a coaching program was starting soon at the University of Calgary, with Newfield Network.  I called the university, spoke to the right person, and I decided to jump in.  I signed up for the course.  […]

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More on Cheating…

With the whole Anthony Weiner/Huma Abedin news breaking this week, it is bringing cheating, affairs, and betrayed wives back into the news cycles.  What really gets me is how people are judging her.  I have already heard…Why didn’t she leave him sooner?  How could she pick someone like him?  Their sex life must not have […]

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Cheating

My thoughts on Cheating have been all over the map as I have started traveling on this journey.  I have always believed that another woman’s man is totally off limits.  Totally.  That stems back from high school, and liking a girlfriend’s boyfriend, and not being able to do anything until they broke up.  That was […]

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“God Texts”

Weird things would happen during this time.  I called them “God texts.”  I would get a message, and find something out, and there was really no reason that I should have gotten the message in the first place.  One in particular really stands out.  We had shared one email, a family email, and I never […]

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Surviving my first holiday alone

The day after Christmas is celebrated in Canada.  Boxing Day.  After our day yesterday, he showed up again.  And we actually slept together.  I thought that would get him back.  And afterwards, he started crying.  Said he promised her things.  I said like leaving me.  And he said yes.  So I responded with what about […]

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Going home??

Coming home was not what I expected.  Though I didn’t know what to expect, the reality was worse.  Life was awful.  We shared a home for 9 days.  He was constantly texting her with a grin on his face. He was begging me not to divorce him.  I was a mess.  And honestly, he was […]

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Slowly Sinking

I spent 2 weeks with my daughter after finding out about the affair.  During that time, I was grasping for anything I could to keep my marriage together.  I talked to my therapist back in Calgary.  I found a couple of infidelity support groups.  I started coaching with one of them.  Divorce Busting.  The coach […]

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