Ran into ex’s close friend

I ran into my ex’s closest and oldest friend today.  Hadn’t seen him in years.  I thought it had been 30 years, he said more like 10.  Whatever.  It was actually really great to see him.  After all the hi’s and I can’t believe it’s, he said he was sorry to hear what happened and […]

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Forgiveness…ugh!

I think I am doing great.  I know I am doing well.  I am coming up to 5 years of finding out about the affair and having my now ex walk out of my life.  I am creating a wonderful life.  I get a lot of inspiration and learning from books.  Last week I was […]

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A is for Affair

I am in a yoga gratitude challenge this month at my yoga studio.  Along with 16 yoga practices this month, we are asked to practice daily gratitude.  One suggestion is to write a gratitude A-Z list, for each letter of the alphabet find something you feel real gratitude for. So I began.  A.  The first […]

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I’m Back

I haven’t written for quite some time.  Not sure why.  My excuse is time, but that is really only an excuse.  Maybe habit?  I just got out of the habit?  Or maybe I just got lazy.  Doesn’t really matter.  I am back now and ready to continue to share my story.  It has been almost […]

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Learning a Big Lesson

I hurt a friend deeply by saying something I should not have.  We were out drinking and carrying on and I did something stupid.  But that is not an excuse.  I own my bad behavior and feel just terrible about it.  One huge thing I have gotten from this journey after the betrayal is to […]

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Dating after your husband cheats and leaves you for the younger other woman

In the aftermath of the affair, my self-esteem was pretty much gone.  I didn’t feel like a beautiful, sexual, wonderful, vibrant female, but rather like an old dried up hag.  The thought of dating again scared the heck out of me.  There was no way I wanted to get hurt again.  And I felt like […]

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Lessons From My Divorce

When you end up on the other side of a relationship, instead of asking yourself, “What was I thinking?” try, “What was I learning?” – Timber Hawkeye I read this quote recently, and it stuck with me.  I am now on the other side of my marriage, and I have learned so much.  About relationships, […]

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The Moving Adventure

My house was in contract, and I now had 6 weeks until I was moving back to Ohio.  I was excited about going back to the US, and leaving Canada.  I was done with Calgary.  But fear also struck and struck large.  I would now be moving across the continent, and driving with my 85 […]

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Decision to Move

I knew I had to leave Calgary.  But that was such a hard decision to truly make and put into action.  My then husband made it really obvious to me that he was never coming back.  I had no family there.  Calgary, though beautiful, is cold for a lot of the year.  And I love […]

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September

I have felt off for a week or so now.  Just off.  A friend has attended Unitarian Universalist church, and he asked me to join him last Sunday.  He told me that it was the first service since summer, and I might find it interesting.  He is a good friend, and knows me enough to […]

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