I’m Back

I haven’t written for quite some time.  Not sure why.  My excuse is time, but that is really only an excuse.  Maybe habit?  I just got out of the habit?  Or maybe I just got lazy.  Doesn’t really matter.  I am back now and ready to continue to share my story.  It has been almost […]

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Finding a career at 56

I came to Columbus having no clue as to what I was going to do with my life or who I was going to be.  After finding about the affair, him walking away, my trying to figure out what I was doing with my life in Calgary and finally leaving Calgary and driving across the […]

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Dating after your husband cheats and leaves you for the younger other woman

In the aftermath of the affair, my self-esteem was pretty much gone.  I didn’t feel like a beautiful, sexual, wonderful, vibrant female, but rather like an old dried up hag.  The thought of dating again scared the heck out of me.  There was no way I wanted to get hurt again.  And I felt like […]

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Lessons From My Divorce

When you end up on the other side of a relationship, instead of asking yourself, “What was I thinking?” try, “What was I learning?” – Timber Hawkeye I read this quote recently, and it stuck with me.  I am now on the other side of my marriage, and I have learned so much.  About relationships, […]

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The Moving Adventure

My house was in contract, and I now had 6 weeks until I was moving back to Ohio.  I was excited about going back to the US, and leaving Canada.  I was done with Calgary.  But fear also struck and struck large.  I would now be moving across the continent, and driving with my 85 […]

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Decision to Move

I knew I had to leave Calgary.  But that was such a hard decision to truly make and put into action.  My then husband made it really obvious to me that he was never coming back.  I had no family there.  Calgary, though beautiful, is cold for a lot of the year.  And I love […]

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September

I have felt off for a week or so now.  Just off.  A friend has attended Unitarian Universalist church, and he asked me to join him last Sunday.  He told me that it was the first service since summer, and I might find it interesting.  He is a good friend, and knows me enough to […]

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Yea but…

“If you really want to do something, you will find a way.  If you don’t, you will find an excuse.”  E. James Rohn Being betrayed sucks.  I remember feeling at the time like my then husband threw me down, and while I severely wounded and lying on the ground, he kicked me off the cliff […]

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Divorce 101

There is no rule book for divorce.  Nothing is handed out at a marriage about how to protect yourself should the marriage fall apart.  Once the affair happened, I was suddenly navigating new territory.  A couple of weeks after I found out about the affair, I went to see a lawyer.  It was awful.  I […]

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In the Meantime

I kept busy for the next 6 months.  Between school, my dog and my workouts, my days were somewhat full.  And I still spent hours talking to my friends,  particularly some of the women I met at the Take your Life Back retreat in Dallas.  Crazy thing was, I still wanted my husband back.  There […]

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