I think I am doing great. I know I am doing well. I am coming up to 5 years of finding out about the affair and having my now ex walk out of my life. I am creating a wonderful life. I get a lot of inspiration and learning from books. Last week I was […]
Read MoreI hurt a friend deeply by saying something I should not have. We were out drinking and carrying on and I did something stupid. But that is not an excuse. I own my bad behavior and feel just terrible about it. One huge thing I have gotten from this journey after the betrayal is to […]
Read MoreIn the aftermath of the affair, my self-esteem was pretty much gone. I didn’t feel like a beautiful, sexual, wonderful, vibrant female, but rather like an old dried up hag. The thought of dating again scared the heck out of me. There was no way I wanted to get hurt again. And I felt like […]
Read MoreWhen you end up on the other side of a relationship, instead of asking yourself, “What was I thinking?” try, “What was I learning?” – Timber Hawkeye I read this quote recently, and it stuck with me. I am now on the other side of my marriage, and I have learned so much. About relationships, […]
Read MoreMy house was in contract, and I now had 6 weeks until I was moving back to Ohio. I was excited about going back to the US, and leaving Canada. I was done with Calgary. But fear also struck and struck large. I would now be moving across the continent, and driving with my 85 […]
Read MoreI knew I had to leave Calgary. But that was such a hard decision to truly make and put into action. My then husband made it really obvious to me that he was never coming back. I had no family there. Calgary, though beautiful, is cold for a lot of the year. And I love […]
Read MoreI have felt off for a week or so now. Just off. A friend has attended Unitarian Universalist church, and he asked me to join him last Sunday. He told me that it was the first service since summer, and I might find it interesting. He is a good friend, and knows me enough to […]
Read More“If you really want to do something, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse.” E. James Rohn Being betrayed sucks. I remember feeling at the time like my then husband threw me down, and while I severely wounded and lying on the ground, he kicked me off the cliff […]
Read MoreThere is no rule book for divorce. Nothing is handed out at a marriage about how to protect yourself should the marriage fall apart. Once the affair happened, I was suddenly navigating new territory. A couple of weeks after I found out about the affair, I went to see a lawyer. It was awful. I […]
Read MoreI kept busy for the next 6 months. Between school, my dog and my workouts, my days were somewhat full. And I still spent hours talking to my friends, particularly some of the women I met at the Take your Life Back retreat in Dallas. Crazy thing was, I still wanted my husband back. There […]
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