Finding a career at 56

I came to Columbus having no clue as to what I was going to do with my life or who I was going to be.  After finding about the affair, him walking away, my trying to figure out what I was doing with my life in Calgary and finally leaving Calgary and driving across the […]

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Lessons From My Divorce

When you end up on the other side of a relationship, instead of asking yourself, “What was I thinking?” try, “What was I learning?” – Timber Hawkeye I read this quote recently, and it stuck with me.  I am now on the other side of my marriage, and I have learned so much.  About relationships, […]

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The Moving Adventure

My house was in contract, and I now had 6 weeks until I was moving back to Ohio.  I was excited about going back to the US, and leaving Canada.  I was done with Calgary.  But fear also struck and struck large.  I would now be moving across the continent, and driving with my 85 […]

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Decision to Move

I knew I had to leave Calgary.  But that was such a hard decision to truly make and put into action.  My then husband made it really obvious to me that he was never coming back.  I had no family there.  Calgary, though beautiful, is cold for a lot of the year.  And I love […]

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September

I have felt off for a week or so now.  Just off.  A friend has attended Unitarian Universalist church, and he asked me to join him last Sunday.  He told me that it was the first service since summer, and I might find it interesting.  He is a good friend, and knows me enough to […]

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Yea but…

“If you really want to do something, you will find a way.  If you don’t, you will find an excuse.”  E. James Rohn Being betrayed sucks.  I remember feeling at the time like my then husband threw me down, and while I severely wounded and lying on the ground, he kicked me off the cliff […]

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Divorce 101

There is no rule book for divorce.  Nothing is handed out at a marriage about how to protect yourself should the marriage fall apart.  Once the affair happened, I was suddenly navigating new territory.  A couple of weeks after I found out about the affair, I went to see a lawyer.  It was awful.  I […]

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Love Affair in Dublin

So he asked me to go to a hotel with him, get to know each other, and make love.  What did I want to do?  I sat there for a while, quiet, lost in my thoughts.  And my non-thoughts, just sitting there feeling.  He was a bit panicked, and told me to please not feel […]

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Why???

It’s not fair.  I am the good one in this relationship.  I didn’t stray.  And yet, I am the one hurting.  I am the one by myself.  This thought would race through my mind, over and over, many times throughout this journey.  It would piss me off.  He had someone to sleep with, someone to […]

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Ending a Marriage by Email

The idea of coaching stayed in my mind.  One day in February, I decided to research it, and found that a coaching program was starting soon at the University of Calgary, with Newfield Network.  I called the university, spoke to the right person, and I decided to jump in.  I signed up for the course.  […]

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