The Moving Adventure

My house was in contract, and I now had 6 weeks until I was moving back to Ohio.  I was excited about going back to the US, and leaving Canada.  I was done with Calgary.  But fear also struck and struck large.  I would now be moving across the continent, and driving with my 85 […]

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September

I have felt off for a week or so now.  Just off.  A friend has attended Unitarian Universalist church, and he asked me to join him last Sunday.  He told me that it was the first service since summer, and I might find it interesting.  He is a good friend, and knows me enough to […]

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Yea but…

“If you really want to do something, you will find a way.  If you don’t, you will find an excuse.”  E. James Rohn Being betrayed sucks.  I remember feeling at the time like my then husband threw me down, and while I severely wounded and lying on the ground, he kicked me off the cliff […]

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Why???

It’s not fair.  I am the good one in this relationship.  I didn’t stray.  And yet, I am the one hurting.  I am the one by myself.  This thought would race through my mind, over and over, many times throughout this journey.  It would piss me off.  He had someone to sleep with, someone to […]

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Ending a Marriage by Email

The idea of coaching stayed in my mind.  One day in February, I decided to research it, and found that a coaching program was starting soon at the University of Calgary, with Newfield Network.  I called the university, spoke to the right person, and I decided to jump in.  I signed up for the course.  […]

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More on Cheating…

With the whole Anthony Weiner/Huma Abedin news breaking this week, it is bringing cheating, affairs, and betrayed wives back into the news cycles.  What really gets me is how people are judging her.  I have already heard…Why didn’t she leave him sooner?  How could she pick someone like him?  Their sex life must not have […]

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Cheating

My thoughts on Cheating have been all over the map as I have started traveling on this journey.  I have always believed that another woman’s man is totally off limits.  Totally.  That stems back from high school, and liking a girlfriend’s boyfriend, and not being able to do anything until they broke up.  That was […]

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“God Texts”

Weird things would happen during this time.  I called them “God texts.”  I would get a message, and find something out, and there was really no reason that I should have gotten the message in the first place.  One in particular really stands out.  We had shared one email, a family email, and I never […]

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Going home??

Coming home was not what I expected.  Though I didn’t know what to expect, the reality was worse.  Life was awful.  We shared a home for 9 days.  He was constantly texting her with a grin on his face. He was begging me not to divorce him.  I was a mess.  And honestly, he was […]

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Slowly Sinking

I spent 2 weeks with my daughter after finding out about the affair.  During that time, I was grasping for anything I could to keep my marriage together.  I talked to my therapist back in Calgary.  I found a couple of infidelity support groups.  I started coaching with one of them.  Divorce Busting.  The coach […]

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