Forgiveness…ugh!

I think I am doing great.  I know I am doing well.  I am coming up to 5 years of finding out about the affair and having my now ex walk out of my life.  I am creating a wonderful life.  I get a lot of inspiration and learning from books.  Last week I was […]

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Lessons From My Divorce

When you end up on the other side of a relationship, instead of asking yourself, “What was I thinking?” try, “What was I learning?” – Timber Hawkeye I read this quote recently, and it stuck with me.  I am now on the other side of my marriage, and I have learned so much.  About relationships, […]

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Divorce 101

There is no rule book for divorce.  Nothing is handed out at a marriage about how to protect yourself should the marriage fall apart.  Once the affair happened, I was suddenly navigating new territory.  A couple of weeks after I found out about the affair, I went to see a lawyer.  It was awful.  I […]

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Why???

It’s not fair.  I am the good one in this relationship.  I didn’t stray.  And yet, I am the one hurting.  I am the one by myself.  This thought would race through my mind, over and over, many times throughout this journey.  It would piss me off.  He had someone to sleep with, someone to […]

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Ending a Marriage by Email

The idea of coaching stayed in my mind.  One day in February, I decided to research it, and found that a coaching program was starting soon at the University of Calgary, with Newfield Network.  I called the university, spoke to the right person, and I decided to jump in.  I signed up for the course.  […]

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“God Texts”

Weird things would happen during this time.  I called them “God texts.”  I would get a message, and find something out, and there was really no reason that I should have gotten the message in the first place.  One in particular really stands out.  We had shared one email, a family email, and I never […]

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Going home??

Coming home was not what I expected.  Though I didn’t know what to expect, the reality was worse.  Life was awful.  We shared a home for 9 days.  He was constantly texting her with a grin on his face. He was begging me not to divorce him.  I was a mess.  And honestly, he was […]

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Life can turn in an instant

Life can take a total turn in an instant.  My instant came on November 13, 2012, when I got a strange feeling in my gut, an intuitive call from somewhere, and went to my then husband’s (now ex-husband’s) computer bag.  There I found receipts.  The receipts told me who he was, and how he wasn’t […]

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